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Your Negative Pregnancy Test - A Chance for Renewal

Your Chance: A Negative Test

Your test came back negative! You’re probably feeling a great deal of relief. If the test had been positive, your life could have changed drastically. Now your life can continue on, just like nothing has changed, but ... Is that really what you want? What about the next time?


Where You Are Now

Now is the time to look at your life and ask yourself, “Is this the life I really wanted?” When you came into the clinic, you were worried and concerned about the possibility of being pregnant. Is this how you imagined yourself reacting to your first pregnancy?

If you are in a place where children wouldn’t be welcomed, it is possible you are not in the place you should be. Ask yourself the following questions and answer them honestly:

  • Is this how I pictured my life when I dreamed of starting a family?
  • Is this the man I want to be the father of my child?
  • Am I happy with my life and my choices?

If you have answered “no” to any of these questions, this is an opportunity to change that. Your life can be different, you can make the right choices, and you can date the right guy in the right way. Keep reading to find out more.

Your Future

A negative test may be the end of your worries for today, but it can also be the beginning of a new (and better) chapter in your life. Don’t miss this opportunity!

If you really want to start down a different road, you are going to have to make some hard choices. Making these decisions is key to your future. If you want to, you can make it happen! Start today, and make your first decision now:

Decision 1: Sex

The first thing to decide is to stop having sex before you are married. This may sound silly and old-fashioned, but it is one of the most important steps you will take.

Sex is very important, especially to women. When you have sex outside of marriage, you are taking something very special and sharing it with someone you may not be with for long.

Inside of marriage, sex is beautiful, full of purpose and love. Outside of marriage, sex is often something the guy wants, something to make him stay, or something done without commitment, love and concern.

Testing this is simple. Just tell your boyfriend that you will no longer have sex until you are married. If he leaves, love was not the most important thing in your relationship. He was not marrying material. If he respects your decision and helps you with your choice, that is a sign of a good mature man.

What if I don’t want to stop?

Only you control your decisions. If you don’t want to stop having sex before marriage, you are gambling with serious issues.

An unplanned pregnancy (which is why you came to the center in the first place) is a lifechanging event. If you are having sex, there’s a good chance you’ll become pregnant. Each year, 14 out of 100 women become pregnant while using condoms;(4) and 5 out of 100 women become pregnant using birth control.(6)

Another serious issue you’re gambling with is sexually transmitted disease. There are 19 million new cases of STDs each year.(1) Some of these infections are simply embarrassing, but others are much more dangerous. Some STDs are incurable, lifelong infections while others can lead to life-threatening diseases and even death. Again, birth control pills provide no protection against STDs, and condoms have been shown to provide only some protection from some diseases.(3) You will be running a serious risk if you choose to have sex before marriage.

Decision 2:

Him Here’s the big question you must ask yourself: “Is my boyfriend right for me?” This may not be an easy decision, but it will be very important for your future. Ask yourself these questions:

  • Does my boyfriend love me, or does he just like the sex?
  • Am I important to my boyfriend?
  • Does my boyfriend think of my needs before his own?
  • Is my boyfriend taking advantage of me?

You need a boyfriend who will become a good father. If your current boyfriend can’t feel that need, it’s time to get out of the relationship. This is easily said, but harder to do. Make the decision today, and then act for your future.

Decision 3:

You You need to ask yourself, “Will I get the help I need?” Choosing not to have sex before marriage, and then choosing the right boyfriend, can be tough. You need all the help you can get. If you are ready to have a different future, choose to get help from this center.

This center can provide you with resources on learning to make different choices. They can help you learn to be proud of your lifestyle and give you tools to help you choose someone who will be a good father to your children. If you’re ready to make a change, ask your counselor for more information. It’s your life and your decision. Make it a good one.

Information on Your Test

There are two different types of pregnancy tests – urine tests and blood tests. Both tests detect the presence of a hormone called HCG (Human Chorionic Gonadotropin), which is produced after the embryo attaches to the uterine lining. Urine pregnancy tests can usually detect HCG by 14 to 16 days after ovulation and are highly accurate when done correctly.

A negative urine test can mean either you are not pregnant or you are pregnant and the test was performed too soon. The level of the HCG hormone in your urine may not be high enough yet to detect. If your test result is negative and you are still feeling pregnancy signs, such as a missed period or morning sickness, return to this clinic in a few days and we will repeat the test.

References:

  1. Weinstock H, et al. Sexually transmitted diseases among American youth: incidence and prevalence estimates, 2000. Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health 2004;36( 1):6-10.
  2. Cates W, McPheeters M. Adolescents and Sexually Transmitted Diseases: Current Risks and Future Consequences. Workshop on Adolescent Sexuality and Reproductive Health in Developing Countries: Trends and Interventions. National Research Council. Washington, DC. March 25, 1997.
  3. National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases. Workshop Summary: Scientific Evidence on Condom Effectiveness for Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) Prevention. Herndon, VA: Hyatt Dulles Airport, June 12-13, 2000 and the follow-up report: Fact Sheet for Public Health Personnel, Male Latex Condoms and Sexually Transmitted Diseases, found here, accessed 5-11-09.
  4. U.S. Food and Drug Administration, Consumer-Friendly Birth Control Information, accessed on 5-14-09.
  5. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for HIV, STD and TB Prevention, Divisions of HIV/AIDS Prevention, Sexually Transmitted Diseases, Fact Sheets found here, accessed 5-14-09.